Can We Talk About Sex?

Yes, why not…everyone else does, and no one is much saying what the Scriptures say about sex.  It apparently is too delicate a subject for many Believers to discuss, or it may simply make them uncomfortable to be open about what is obviously a problem for every human being.

G-d is in favor of sex.  He is in favor of human sexuality to the point that he reminds me to remind you that he invented it.  G-d, however, also invented how and why human sexuality was to be enjoyed.

Humans are not animals and cannot ‘hookup’ in an emotionally healthy way with multiple, casual partners with the careless abandon of a wild stallion, or a feline in heat.   Humans are not animals, and our souls do bond in a way designed by G-d to make a permanent social linkage in a man and woman for the safety and preservation of the young who would be brought into the world as a natural consequence of ‘knowing’ another human being.  It is only now that the young are being casually aborted just as easily as people once threw newborns into the fires of Molech that sex is more common between strangers than a hand shake.

It is true that the purveyors of digital content have slowly desensitized the Western world to casual, open sexuality of the most debased kinds, and it is what is being pushed as the most fun thing to do with your time and attention, regardless of the negative effect it is having on people.  I remember free and easy sexual conduct or representation of sexual content being called pornea once, but only if you studied Greek, and then only in a negative way.  Apparently the West is now a replica of Pagan Rome during the time of the Caesars, and is just as debauched, while pornea is served up with your breakfast commercials and news shows.

The Greek words “pornea” (often translated “fornication”) and “akatharsia” (often translated “uncleanness”) or the Hebrew words  “na’ayuf ” and “tum’ah”  for the same definitions in English are not popular these days, any more than their definitions are, because people do not want to speak of sexual activity of any kind as being negative.  But sexual behavior in the current age is a battlefield full of land mines, and the way through the landscape needs to be taught carefully and clearly.

No one in the Western world is supposed to be opposed to anything that someone else does sexually if it is privately done and not against civil law in America, but at the date of this writing everything including sexual congress with young children is being approved of in some circles, and of course, with non-heterosexual actions being not only approved of, but mandated in America regardless of age concerns, there are some rules to be laid down for those people that are disciples of Yeshua.

Those who follow Yeshua, and worship YHVH do not partake of any but heterosexual relations within a marital relationship of one man and one woman.  If you are doing otherwise, you are not walking in the straight and narrow path.  And while there are those who wish to walk in the broad and winding way of the world, that open highway is not for Believers in YHVH.

Sexual activity outside of this narrow definition is to be avoided if you wish to please YHVH, and to maintain a loving walk as a disciple of Yeshua.  It doesn’t matter how you parse the text in any translation of the Scriptures…fornication means sexual congress outside of marriage; and uncleanness, when used in a way not denoting ritual purity, also means sexual congress outside of marriage.  If you are married, sexual congress is approved of, and to be thoroughly enjoyed as frequently as it is convenient to you both, for progeny and for pleasure and closeness.

That narrow definition of approved, heterosexual marital relations excludes everything else sexual, in thought or in deed, so you will need to avoid movies with sexual scenes in them; songs that contain sexual references; books, magazines or graphic novels that describe sexual activity, and lewd or vulgar jokes and discussions.

No self-gratification is allowed either, no matter how silly that might sound to the more secularly trained person, but as Abba explained it to me once, it was tantamount to a homosexual experience with yourself, not to mention self-indulgent in the extreme.  Curiosity about the human body as it matures is to be expected,  and should be explained frankly prior to coming of age sexually in order to avoid problems in that area, for it is easier to not begin than it is to stop once you have begun.

Homosexuality and masturbation are not approved of by YHVH, partially because these indulgences are designed by the Adversary to prevent a normal family relationship from developing in the life of the affected individual.  These activities are to be avoided merely to remain in control of one’s own body, which if you have given it to Yeshua, is not yours anymore, and must be treated as the Temple of G-d it has become.  Your body is holy unto Adonai, and is to be treated so, and so is that of the person you wish to be close to emotionally, and one day marry.

No exceptions, no excuses, and no adultery.  And if you have already blown it, as most of us in this very worldly place we are living in these days have, particularly if you were not raised in a Believing household as I was not, ask G-d for forgiveness, and ask him to help you rein in what is obviously out of control.  The more you avoid exposure to inflammatory material in pictures, words, and imagination, the better off you will be.

And if you question the seeming oddity of a life without sexual gratification when unmarried, as if it were merely food that you eat rather than a set of actions designed for the procreation of the human race, and for bonding with your spouse, you will know that you have been raised in a hedonistic secular society.  Our current society is openly stating that your sensual appetites are to be satisfied just as if you are scratching an itch.  However, not being an animal, you are supposed to acquire self-discipline as you grow in your faith, if only to prevent harm to yourself and to others.

Is living a life holy unto G-d…separated unto Yeshua easy in this way?  Oddly, once you get past the idea that you are supposed to be self-indulgent in this area, you will find it a relief to not be always wondering what you must give to others for simple human kindness, or in the first flush of attraction to a stranger.  Free and easy sexual experiences may appear to be expected of you in this secular world, but you do not need to comply, nor satisfy the prurient expectations of the secular world.

You are not secular…you are a child of the Most High G-d.



4 thoughts on “Can We Talk About Sex?”

    1. Thank you…I really enjoyed reading it, and it pulled together many details I had tucked in my brain that didn’t git together.

      The article above was thoroughly discussed, and persuasive even to those that have a great deal of sympathy for the victims of a non-heterosexual inclination. What was nice about the discussion is it helped me to realize that despite my sympathy for those who engage in non-heterosexual behavior and their consequent personal difficulties, they are essentially indulging themselves in activities that are not the species norm, and are not supportive of the species norm. If you simply look at it as survival of the fittest, under non-technical situations, they are doomed.

      No wonder there are activists that hate those who are ‘against’ them on religious or secular grounds, and desire complete normalization within society, regardless of how the majority population of heterosexual individuals are impacted. They may not be conscious of the fact, but no matter how it is put, nor how hard anyone tries to make that lifestyle normal to the species, it is not, and cannot survive.


  1. The true purpose of sexual morality is to promote and protect marriage (true monogamous marriage of one man and one woman), and by extension protect the family as the basic social unit of society. Stable marriages give stable families and that promotes a harmonious society.

    That said, sex in marriage is not just for making babies. Common sense can help some folks out in this area.


    1. Oh, I quite agree. It was why I said, in passing:

      If you are married, sexual congress is approved of, and to be thoroughly enjoyed as frequently as it is convenient to you both, for progeny and for pleasure and closeness.

      The last thing I want to do is give the impression that sex is not supposed to be a joy to the married couple…because it is.

      Just as an example, one of the more pleasant ways to spend a Sabbath morning is by getting back into bed with your spouse. There is nothing more delightful than having the opportunity to use time gifted by G-d for enjoying the creation he made, than by enjoying that part of it that G-d spent a good deal of thought on!

      I find that whatever the Adversary tries to use against us or tempt us with are those things that Abba apparently meant for joy.

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